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秉持溫暖、尊重、真誠、放鬆及自主的精神,
伴你成長~Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger241125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801586211062381127.post-72003202710616988062016-12-19T23:44:00.003-08:002016-12-21T17:12:19.096-08:00<h2>
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<span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">日常生活中,我們常聽到「A型的人比較神祕」、「喔,原來他是雙魚座的,難怪這麼浪漫」等話語。我相信在成長過程中,每個人或多或少都曾經翻看星座書或血型書,佩服於當中的描述如此切中自己的性格特質。本篇文章當然無意批評占星學或血型學,僅是從心理學來談談人們對某些描述覺得「沒錯,這就是我」的對號入座心理特性。</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">在1948年,心理學家Bertram R. Forer設計了一個極富創意的研究,他請全班學生填寫一份人格測驗,事後給予每位學生各自的測驗結果報告,並請學生評估這份測驗結果的準確度,結果學生多半認為測驗報告與自己的性格的契合度頗高(滿分5分,學生給予的評分平均為4.26)。但是,事實上,所有學生拿到的測驗報告其實是完全相同的一份。這個令人震驚的結果當然不是用來證明每個人的個性都一模一樣,而是證明了,當我們看到一份設計精巧的<span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">性格描述時,我們有多麼容易對號入座,這種現象在心理學上稱之 Barnum Effect (常被翻譯為包南效應、巴納姆效應)。-------------</span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">求職系列文章終於進入最終回,筆者與讀者共同撒花慶祝!能夠追隨求職系列文章,一一完成目標鎖定、履歷及自傳的撰寫真的很不簡單,這過程不僅展現求職者的毅力與恆心,還有願意不斷修正及調整的決心。這些工作態度都是有助我們未來進入職場工作,使我們適應、學習得更順利。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">回到正題,<span style="background: yellow; color: red;"><u><b>求職信</b></u>是一套完整的求職資料所不可或缺的部分,也是展現你是否具備<b><u>求職禮儀</u></b>的關鍵。</span>一封傑出的求職信能在很短的時間專注公司的目光,並成功地推銷及廣告你的大好機會,雇主可能因此將你的履歷及自傳特別挑出,優先閱讀。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><u><i><span style="color: #e69138;">說明自己</span></i></u>的名字、就讀學系、對什麼職位有興趣(以及原因)、有過什麼(會讓人眼睛一亮的)相關經驗,禮貌地謝謝展信人。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">接下來我們要進入面試技巧,以下將基本、一般性的重要原則列點說明,如果有興趣的讀者可以自行上網搜尋更多資料及秘笈。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; line-height: 150%;"><span style="color: #6aa84f; font-size: x-large;"><b>求職啟航第三站</b></span></span><span style="font-family: 標楷體; line-height: 150%;"><span style="color: #6aa84f; font-size: x-large;"><b>–自傳撰寫</b></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 16pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">當你依序閱讀前幾篇文章及完成履歷,先恭喜你,接下來自傳只剩兩成就完成了,為什麼呢?<span style="background: yellow; color: red;">因為<u>自傳</u>是奠基於履歷的內容,當你完成一份好的履歷,實際上也同時完成了八成的履歷。</span>此外,在撰寫履歷及自傳的過程,也為之後面試的需準備的內容打草稿,包含自我介紹、常見面試問題的應答等,都已經有小抄!關於面試的更多細節,將留在下一篇文章揭曉。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="color: red;">自傳,是公司進一步了解應徵者</span><u><span style="color: #38761d;">個人特質</span></u><span style="color: red;">、與</span><u><span style="color: #0b5394;">職務相關經驗</span></u><span style="color: red;">的通道</span></span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">,一份好的自傳應充分傳達個人特色及風格,儘量展現出一個想讓他人認識的自己。基本撰寫原則也是<span style="background: yellow; color: red;">精簡扼要、明確戰績、做連結</span>,因為一份自傳通常字數為<span lang="EN-US">600</span>到<span lang="EN-US">1000</span>字,不超過一頁<span lang="EN-US">A4</span>,在很有限的字數內最大化「<i style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #674ea7;"><u>自己就是公司需要的人才,無論經歷、特質都符合職業要求</u></span></i>」是挑戰的。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">捷徑做法是從履歷中挑選重要的經歷、事件,依據上述的自傳架構作為大綱,以此為基礎並結合三個原則,<span style="background: yellow; color: red;"><b>精簡扼要、明確戰績、做連結</b></span>,讓我們從紀錄片《新鮮人求職奮鬥記》的主角在部落格的</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://freshmantogether.pixnet.net/blog/post/68547144"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;">這一篇文章</span></a></span></span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">為參考,仔細對照她的履歷及自傳,你可以發現她從自傳更深入且完整地補充履歷上的重要經歷,並且更立體地呈現她的特質、能力是十分吻合職缺。利用自傳深化個人與職缺的關聯性,加深面試官或人資人員的印象,是使你從眾多應徵者中閃閃發亮的關鍵!無論是履歷或自傳,寫完後可以<span style="color: red;">利用<u>學校職涯中心顧問諮詢</u>,尋求專業意見修改</span>,讓你更精益求精。求職系列文中最終回的主題是求職信與面試技巧,讓我們下回分曉。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> 的</span><span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">評估</span><span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">能力及自我了解能力,例如你希望你的菜是個可依靠的人,能</span><br />
<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> 事</span><span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">事為你打點或照顧你,有人照顧真的很幸福呀!! </span><span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">但你很可能也會因</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> EX: 偶爾你想參加朋友活動,但對方認為這活動不適合你...這時衝突</span><br />
<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> 如何化解?</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> 2.<span style="background-color: yellow;"><u><b>自我</b></u>的了解及成長</span> : 當人能越了解自己的特性與需求,越能為自己做出較實務的決</span><br />
<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> 定,而減少更多的困難處。</span><br />
<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> EX : 假設你嚮往的愛情是朝穩定婚姻前進,當然你可能較不會</span><br />
<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> 考慮一夜情式的交友模式。</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> 依據上述說的,人能越了解自己,當然也越能有機會好好重新</span><br />
<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> 設定自己的行為。</span><br />
<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> EX : 不擅長表達需求、常易被旁人誤解,如果你能理解不善表</span><br />
<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> 達的原因,甚至能練習用新的方式--表達需求來互動,</span><span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">你</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> 3.<span style="background-color: yellow;">彼此<u><b>關係</b></u>品質 :</span> 也就是兩人在一起時,有交心的機會,別看這簡單的字眼,要交心</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> EX : 大家可能蠻不喜歡當自己在說心事時,旁人低頭猛回其他人</span><span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> <span style="background-color: yellow;"><b>調整好自己的心態,你能創造出更多的人際機會,你的一小步改變,能帶來很大的心理影響力甚至後座力,愛情週活動即是想傳遞這樣的</b></span></span><span style="color: blue; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: yellow;"><b>觀念</b></span>,也是這幾位參賽者參與活動的動機,這一系列2個月的活動,不只給予他們外貌/心理層面的改變,也增強著他們改變的勇氣,歡迎你一起來分享引發漣漪,將勇氣傳遞出去~</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; line-height: 150%;"><span style="color: #e69138; font-size: x-large;"><b>求職啟航第二站</b></span></span><span style="font-family: 標楷體; line-height: 150%;"><span style="color: #e69138; font-size: x-large;"><b>–履歷撰寫</b></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 16pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;">陳羿蓉<span lang="EN-US">/</span>嘉義大學輔導與諮商所研究生<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">依循<a href="http://talking-in-mind.blogspot.tw/2016/05/blog-post_30.html" target="_blank">上一篇文章</a>的步驟,對想應徵的工作內容、所需的特質已有初步掌握, 下一步便是─<i><span style="color: #38761d;"><u><b>包裝自己</b></u></span></i>,一份好的履歷不僅具體展現個人過去經驗與成就,也提升面試官或公司人資對於你的好奇,更能增加參加第二次面試的機會。<span style="background: yellow; color: red;">掌握三個要點,<b>精簡扼要</b>、<b>明確戰績</b>、<b>做連結</b></span>就能大大吸引面試官或審核人員的眼光,從雪片般的履歷脫穎而出!<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">「為人開朗、熱心公益,在大學期間獲選為宿舍舍長兩年」<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">又到了會計課,每當碰到這類和數字有關的課程,小紅的頭就忍不住開始痛了起來,越是想要認真上課,就越覺得腦中頭暈目眩,十分的不舒服。台上老師講得口沫橫飛、頭頭是道,對小紅來說,卻活脫脫像是外星語言,根本完全摸不著邊際。若是再加上前一天因為打工而晚點睡,那小紅就根本敵不過周公的召喚,只能頻頻在課堂上釣魚了。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">其實,小紅也不是偷懶的學生,只是從小對數學就不在行,偏偏卻念了企管這一科,這一切對他而言,簡直就像是一種酷刑。更何況,<i><span style="color: #e69138;">念這個自己毫無興趣的科目</span></i>,小紅也實在百般不願意,要不是填大學志願時,<i><span style="color: #38761d;">家人以前途較好為理由,硬是要求小紅以商業管理相關科目為目標,他也不會這樣拿石頭砸自己的腳。</span></i><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">只是,上大學之後,小紅不但覺得自己<i><span style="color: #f1c232;">只要碰到專業課程就如坐針氈,實在無法消受</span></i>,另一方面,在參加康樂性社團成為重要幹部之後,小紅更<i><span style="color: #f1c232;">發現自己其實是另有專長的</span></i>,他不但將社團經營得有聲有色,班上或系上的出遊活動也都是小紅規劃及執行,無論是行程或是活動內容,都獲得眾人的一致好評,讓小紅察覺他似乎應以觀光旅遊業為發展目標才符合自己興趣,也<i><span style="color: #e69138;">升起轉系的念頭</span></i>。</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">大學生活過了一半,小紅越來越覺得當時選擇企管這一科實在是個錯誤,他也沒有辦法想像自己一輩子和數字奮戰的樣子,但面對家人的殷殷期待,小紅實在是左右為難。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">像小紅這樣的情況,可以說是<span style="background-color: yellow; color: red;"><i>遇到了<b>生涯阻隔</b>,而阻隔的因素則是受<b>親人</b>的影響,選擇了與自己的興趣不符合的生涯決定,因而形成目前的困擾</i></span>,想要突破這樣的困境,小紅可以從幾個觀點思考與處理:</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">小紅因興趣和家人期待不同而形成自我衝突,算是覺察到自己的生涯困境,雖然目前似乎認清了自己的目標,但當初會依照父母意見選擇,就表示對小紅而言,<u><span style="color: #e06666;">家人意見也是值得重視或是會形成重大壓力的一環</span></u>,因此對於自己的決策風格及真實想法,小紅可能<u><span style="color: #e06666;">需要一個更深度的釐清與整體的整理</span></u>,才能面對目前的狀態。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">因此,小紅可以利用<span style="background-color: yellow;">學校諮輔中心</span>的資源做<u><span style="color: #f1c232;">進一步的探索</span></u>,例如做相關測驗,以更確定自己的性向及生涯決策風格,或是參加生涯小團體,與他人分享和討論自己目前的情境,以收集思廣益之效,或是也可以利用個別諮商的機會,針對個人狀態討論如何面對當前的困難,做出適合自己的決定。</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">以小紅的情況,無論是繼續就讀目前的科系,或是試圖轉到自己有興趣的科系,其實都是需要相當的能量來應對,因此在過程中,找到適合的資源協助自己,就是一件重要的事。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">若小紅衡量之後還是決定留在目前科系,那麼,以目前的社團模式持續發展自己有興趣的專長,也可說是不錯的選擇。甚至如果有機會,小紅也可以<u><span style="color: #674ea7;">利用打工的方式進入自己有興趣的業</span>界</u>,那畢業後,還是有可能以自己的興趣為就業目標,在下一階段做不同的生涯選擇。雖說學以致用是很好的概念,但當今社會的職涯發展進路是多元的,許多行業也不一定要有相關學歷才能進入,如果<u><span style="color: #6aa84f;">將目前科系所學視為一種基本能力的累積</span></u>,那麼,對長期的生涯發展都會有幫助。另外,如果將來進一步的生涯發展還是以目前所學科系為考量,持續發展其他方面的興趣,以興趣充實工作外的生涯,都是讓整體生活更為圓滿的一種方式。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">如果經過思考與評估之後,小紅還是決定轉換科系跑道,也許也可以<span style="color: #cc0000;"><u>和家人做進一步溝通</u></span>,試試能不能獲得家人的支持。若是在家人不支持的狀態下想堅持自我,也要<span style="color: #741b47;"><u>思考自己能夠為自己的決定負多少責任,以及將來如何面對衝突的部分</u></span>,而不只是任性的隨性而行。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">面臨畢業季的來臨,內心有許多焦慮不安、茫然,就如同迷航在無垠大海中的一艘小船,隨著波浪載浮載沉,不知道要行駛至哪一個方向,渴望能望見燈塔指引方向。能指引我們的燈塔在哪呢?除了身旁的朋友、學校的學長姐、信任的師長及家人外,還有大家熟知的–網路,也能協助我們從龐雜的求職資訊中鎖定與自己能力、生涯規劃及興趣吻合的目標,使我們在履歷及面試準備上更有效率、聚焦!<i style="background-color: #f4cccc;"><span style="color: #0b5394;"><b>求職</b></span>是一段<u><span style="color: #674ea7;">起起伏伏</span></u>歷程,猶如我們玩遊戲時會<span style="color: #674ea7;"><u>卡關,挫折</u></span></i>,甚至自我懷疑究竟有沒有能力,而<i style="background-color: #f4cccc;">破關需要<u><span style="color: #b45f06;">不斷地練功、升等</span></u>,我們在求職過程也會<u><span style="color: #b45f06;">不斷地修改履歷、練習面試技巧</span></u></i>,會越來越上手、更有自信地拿到工作機會。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">下課後,同學約著要去聚餐,小黃露出羨慕的神色,但還是只能趕快收拾東西,匆匆趕往打工的餐廳,免得上班遲到。這種不斷趕場的壓力,就是小黃平日的生活寫照,<i><span style="color: #b4a7d6;">每天上學、打工、回家還得幫忙家務</span></i>,日子團團轉個不停。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">高二時,身為一家之主的爸爸病倒了,家中頓時失去經濟依靠,小黃是家中長子,總覺得應該肩負起責任,於是,休學的念頭不斷在腦中升起。但小黃平日成績不錯,高職老師基於愛才不斷勸留,加上家人討論後,覺得放棄讀到一半的學業實在可惜,也幸好有親戚的金錢資助,因此就能順利讀到畢業。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">高職畢業時,小黃也考慮過直接就業以分擔家計,但身邊許多人都說現在大學畢業是在社會生存的基本門檻,媽媽也希望小黃以長久規劃為考量,擔心他往後因學歷低而職場競爭力弱,反而更讓家庭沒有翻身的機會。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">小黃一直獨自面對自己的困境,其實是一件很辛苦的事,或許可以嘗試著在學校找能信任的對象來協助自己。在經濟方面,為了資助弱勢青年就學,其實有各式各樣的補助與獎學金,也有入學貸款可以申請,小黃長期以來一直只靠自己及親戚支援而形成壓力,<i><u style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #f6b26b;">如果能找學校及老師詢問,也許能得到適當的經濟援助</span></u></i>。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">除了經濟方面,小黃讓<i><u><span style="color: #e06666;">導師</span></u></i>了解自己的狀態,也能請老師<i><span style="color: #e06666;">陪同檢視目前的學校課業學習,或許能給小黃一些額外的學習指導與支持</span></i>,讓他能降低課業上的壓力,並能將時間做更妥善運用。也或者<i><span style="color: #e06666;">學校有可能提供一些校內打工的機會</span></i>,以減少他來回奔波的辛苦。總之,在緊繃的生活中,如果能尋求適當的支援,都能讓小黃獲得稍微喘息的空間。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">當該做與想做的事太多,我們就必須釐清,<u><span style="color: #a64d79;"><i>生涯規劃是長期的事,並不一定要在眼前就將所有的事一口氣做完</i></span></u>,列出待辦事項清單,<span style="color: #674ea7;"><u><i>分清楚輕重緩急,並按照順序完成</i></u></span>,才能舒緩短期而急性的壓力。或是調整自己的心態,知道目前的辛苦努力是為了未來長期發展,都能提高努力的動力,以持續在生涯進路上順利前進。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">小黃面對的情境壓力值是很高的,除了實際在生活上尋求調整,有時維持心理的動力也是很重要的。心理諮商也許無法在現實上幫上忙,卻能成為心靈上的避風港,小黃如果覺得家中的事是個人隱私,不願意讓太多人知道自己的情形,保密條件下的<span style="color: #6aa84f;"><b><u>諮商</u></b></span>就能<i><span style="color: #6aa84f;">提供小黃抒發心理壓力的空間,讓他在抒發情緒之後能提高能量</span></i>,也才能更面對目前的生涯困境。</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: yellow;"><span style="color: red;">缺乏支持系統的生涯困境,有時需要靠<u><b>尋求資源</b></u>以增強支持系統,有時則要靠<u><b>當事人自己的堅持與努力</b></u>突破困難。無論是朝向哪一種方向,都必須<u><b>儲備足夠的能量</b></u>以面對困境</span></span>,若是能衝破難關,其實當事人也是在過程中累積問題解決的策略與能力,以長期發展而言,朝向正向的角度思考,這些能力必然都能成為生涯的助力,並成為一輩子的資源,協助當事人面對生涯的每一個階段。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;">張祐瑄 實習諮商心理師<span lang="EN-US">/</span>寬欣心理治療所<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">記得嗎,人生最重要的事,其實只有五件。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: #f4cccc;">說我愛你</span>、<span style="background-color: #fce5cd;">學習一個人</span>、<span style="background-color: #fff2cc;">出去玩</span>、<span style="background-color: #d9ead3;">做自己</span>、<span style="background-color: #d0e0e3;">好好活下去</span>。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">為什麼是這五件事?<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">這是<span lang="EN-US">Glasser</span>從臨床實務工作上發現的,每件事都代表一種</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://ksy.judicial.gov.tw/Upload/RelFile/Publish/405/634037525727187500.pdf"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;">信念</span></a></span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">實現它,就可以過著更幸福快樂的人生呢!<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">這次,我們要繼續來介紹一件事,這件事很<span lang="EN-US">happy</span>,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">就是出去玩。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">出去玩,乍聽之下好像有點廢。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">不能讓成績變好,又不像打工可以賺錢,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">甚至可能被爸媽或老師說一天到晚都在玩,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">真的以為大學是由你玩四年。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;">Well</span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">,這個部分我們先壓著,待會再來說。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">從現況來說,學生一週上課五天,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">大學生的課表可能更彈性,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">不過,星期六和星期日這兩天通常不需要上課。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">另外,政府從<span lang="EN-US">105</span>年開始全面實施</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://www.mol.gov.tw/announcement/2099/23689/"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;">「週休二日」</span></a></span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">制度。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">也就是說,如果你是一個全職勞工,領薪水的那種,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">每週正常工時是<span lang="EN-US">40</span>小時,上班五天。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">所以,你會有兩天不用上班。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">發現了嗎?不管是學生還是工作者,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">一個星期至少會有兩天,讓你稍微休息喘口氣。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">因為<b><i><u><span style="color: #e69138;">人生本來就不是只有上班上課</span></u></i></b>。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">想想,一週<span lang="EN-US">7</span>天<span lang="EN-US">168</span>個小時都在上班上課,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">是一個多恐怖的狀況啊!<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">你根本也不記得上了哪些課,做了哪些工作,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">其中一件事情,就是出去玩。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">去哪玩都好,國內國外也沒差,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">你家附近、台北、花蓮、綠島、峇里島、濟州島都可以,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">跟同學、朋友、另一半、家人、同事不限制。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">重要的是,你有<b><span style="background-color: yellow; color: red;">好好玩,認真玩</span>。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">玩,不只是拍照、打卡、上傳<span lang="EN-US">FB/
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">然後等按讚和留言的<span lang="EN-US">SOP</span>流程。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">玩的方式有很多,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">開車、騎機車、搭火車、搭巴士、搭飛機、搭船,甚至走路,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">每種方式都有獨一無二的風情,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">重要的是,你有<b><span style="background-color: yellow;"><span style="color: red;">注意到旅途中的人事物</span></span>。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">身處科技時代,出去玩的時候,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">我們早已習慣迅速拿出手機和相機,記錄當下的歡樂與感動,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">嗯,當然也有可能是好笑、愚蠢的事情。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">這些方式有效提醒了我們,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">自己去過哪裡、和誰在一起、吃過什麼,有什麼好玩的。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">讓旅途不只留下腰酸背痛和發票帳單,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">是我們很常使用的旅遊方案。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">(趕快按下快門)細細品嘗這難得一見的絕美滋味。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">這樣一來,你將會有更獨特的玩樂經驗。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">看到這張照片時,<i><u><span style="color: #674ea7;">腦中會浮現一份私人專屬的回憶</span></u></i>,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">然後帶著這份回憶,繼續投入原本的日常生活。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;">傅弘毅 </span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">諮商心理師/</span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">寬欣心理治療所</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">最近一齣台灣戲劇<span style="background-color: #f4cccc;"><span lang="EN-US">«</span>燦爛時光<span lang="EN-US">»</span></span>,在呈現當時日本戰敗,國民政府來台,政權過度之間,台灣人民的尷尬處境。其中有一幕我印象很深,一群年輕人過去被日本人欺壓的很慘,因此在日本戰敗要全面撤離時,許多年輕人憤起要去對付日本人,當時有許多有志人士出面,讓狀況稍稍穩定下來。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">後來,國民政府在台灣,不注重民生發展,使得許多公共建設停擺、失業率攀伸、差別待遇等。希望破滅的結果,欺壓的情形不斷循環,使得台灣人再也吞不下這口氣,進而開始針對外省族群,這群人看到外省人就會去挑釁、攻擊。那天在廟口,一樣的情形發生,這時有一名青年出面阻止他們,當然她阻止不了狀況,但她不斷的重複,要打去找政府、要打去找政府,之後,她組織了青年軍,將她的憤怒對向她憤怒的源頭。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;"><u style="background-color: #fff2cc;">最近社會上有許多震盪,其實都源自於<span style="color: #e06666;"><b>憤怒</b></span>。</u><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">像是三姐妹布丁事件,<i><span style="color: #e69138;">反應了我們社會對於「<u>過太好的人</u>」的憤怒</span></i>,為什麼會這樣呢<span lang="EN-US">?</span>我想,<i><span style="color: #e69138;">因為我們都過的「<u>太不好了</u>」</span></i>,<span lang="EN-US">22K</span>、工作難求又不穩定、貧富差距拉大,都讓我們疑惑,到底怎麼了?也因此,看到有人好像過的不錯,自然會憤怒;加上,一開始他們是被愛心拉到最高的關注層次,自然就讓每個人都覺得被傷害了:我以為我們是同一國的,沒想到妳也只是再騙我。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">關於三姊妹的事,目前已經到了一種極端化的狀況了,護航、追殺、中立,各種輿論基調都已慢慢確立,其實在言論自由社會這是一個幾乎是必然的結果,也因此我這邊也提供一個不同觀點(源自於幾名不願具名的朋友):<u><span style="color: #6aa84f;"><i>我們是不是對於「過的不好」的人有一個既定印象,他們不該怎麼樣,然後該怎麼樣。我們給了他們許多資源,然後再批評他們過的奢侈</i></span></u>;你知道,我們政府官員很喜歡包場給那些需要扶助的孩子看電影、去<span lang="EN-US">101</span>甚至想要帶去迪士尼?卻抨擊他們可能是努力存錢才準備好的昂貴行程(當然這非當事人都很難知悉全貌的)。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">當然,他們用了同情心行銷(註一),這確實是可接受公評的事情;當然,他們還使用味全,我懂,我懂。但在奢侈的部分,這年紀不就是這樣嗎?哪個人不想被認同,而身處這樣的次文化裡,不是那麼容易不在文化裡追求認同的。記得前陣子常常有那種訕笑國中生的臉書社團,他們在分享自己的照片或是自己的奢侈品。但其實可以反問一句,這樣的行為跟各種珠寶鑑賞節目,在知名談話節目中去談論自己的出國戰利品有何不同呢?所以你所想對抗的,是這樣物質崇拜的社會風氣?還是,什麼身分該有甚麼樣子的價值模範呢?
想讓自己過的看起來好一點應該不是罪吧<span lang="EN-US">…<o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">但是我懂,不管如何我們依然憤怒,其實社會上有許多事情都是這樣,對於鄭捷,對於官員,<i style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #0b5394;">對於各種「過的不錯的人」,我們「過的不好」的這些憤怒到底該往那裡去呢</span></i><span lang="EN-US"><i style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #0b5394;">?</span></i><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">這是一個很困難的問題,即使我時常在處理來談者的憤怒,我仍然每次都覺得這是個很難處理的問題。我有很多處理情緒的方法可以提供建議,替代情緒、轉換視角、正念靜心<span lang="EN-US">...</span>但我想,這些並不是重點。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">不瞞各位說,當看到所謂的爆料文我也一樣的生氣,雖然其實自始自終我也沒什麼關心甚至沒買過他們的布丁,但這就是所謂的「魯蛇的義氣」(註)吧!我跟大家一樣生氣,因為我也是「過不好的人」!只是,當我思考幾天後,我感到困惑的是,我到底該對誰生氣?說真的,吃個餐廳、買支<span lang="EN-US">Iphone</span>(或智慧型手機)幾乎是現代人必備的東西了,這不是沒有錢可以先不要有的東西,而是在社會生存暫且必備的物品啊!想到過去網路上戲謔的一張圖:<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">不過這邊到可以聊聊為何會產生「魯蛇的義氣」。在團體心理治療的理論中,<span lang="EN-US">Yalom</span>在其豐富的經驗中淬煉出十一項團體會發生療效的因子,其中,<b><u style="background-color: #d0e0e3;">普同感</u></b>是重要的要素之一。普同感是<i><u><span style="color: #0b5394;">指能夠感覺到其他人有跟你一樣的經驗時,會得到很大的心理安慰。</span></u></i>由於人類是群聚的生物,當能夠知道有人跟自己一樣時,就能<i><u><span style="color: #0b5394;">得到歸屬感</span></u></i>。因此,當我們一起面對某種東西生氣時,除了宣洩情緒的作用外,也在這過程中得到普同感,因為<u><i><span style="color: #134f5c;">知道有人跟自己一樣而安心</span></i></u>。人啊,是很矛盾的生物,一方面想要獨特、一方面有需要共鳴。所以,我們可以理解、也能安心,魯蛇的義氣是我們與生俱來的需求。也因此,當這個歸屬感被破壞時,我們理當會這麼生氣,這時候該怎麼辦呢?<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">我的建議是,<span style="background-color: yellow;"><span style="color: red;"><u>想想自己為何生氣、生氣該對誰發?以及該怎麼生氣。</u></span></span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">看到人家過得很好而生氣,問題在哪裡呢?在於為何我們過的那麼不好!所以首先,矛頭對準。陳政亮老師認為,我們從小在學校體制中,就是一個以成績做為排擠標準的制度,也因此,功課好做什麼似乎都沒甚關係,功課不好,那就只好團結自強了。這樣的競爭讓我們受傷,痛苦的我們已經承受了好多年頭了,夠了吧!我可以展現憤怒了吧!所以,看到自己的認同有被欺騙的感覺、看到別人過的比自己好,自然會有這些憤怒啊!不過我們必須知道,<span style="background-color: yellow;"><span style="color: red;">這不是他們的錯,而是<b>讓我們過的那麼不好的___的錯。</b></span></span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">我會認為是勞動環境太差,有能力去干預這種狀況的人事物做的不夠。但卻又不小心(或放縱)的讓某些人無止境的過的好。這樣的___才是我們應該要去對抗的。___該填上的,有人覺得是政府、有人覺得是社會文化、也有人覺得是自己的內心,那你覺得是什麼呢?<i style="background-color: #f6b26b;">想一想,或許就能更清楚的知道我們該<u>對抗什麼</u>?接下來,我就知道我的<u>憤怒該發向何處</u>。</i><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">搞清楚憤怒該往哪裡去後,再來就是這麼做。在言論自由社會中,最簡單的方式就是<i><u><span style="color: #674ea7;">嘴砲</span></u></i>,我們可以大力的批評、提出不同意見;在民主社會中,言論自由是允許我們針對任何事物提出批評,你也會接受各種批評。但無論如何請記得一件事情,言語能救人也能殺人。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">如果希望讓事情更好,我們可以試著在批評之外,建立<i><u><span style="color: #674ea7;">有效的溝通討論方式</span></u></i>。關於這個,我推薦朱家安與台灣吧合作的哲學哲學雞蛋糕影片,總共有六集,如果有興趣可以前往這個<span lang="EN-US"><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NiUWuqtZIeU"><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US">連結</span></span></a></span>。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;">註一:意旨搭配某種引起他人同情心的故事或媒介,藉此去促進他人的購買慾望的銷售行為。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;">註二:陳政亮老師在《「魯蛇的義氣」妒恨「溫拿的傲慢」:台灣教育排名競賽養成的學生偏狹人格》一文中。試圖去爬梳出我們這些魯蛇的憤怒源頭,他認為這是一種魯蛇的義氣:"它表明了「不論處於何種狀況,彼此相互幫忙」的同儕倫理,這是對競爭狀態的直接拒絕,或者是一種心理上的防衛機制,透過「相挺」而來抵抗個人之間的殘酷競爭。"<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">關於人生,很重要的小事。之二:學習一個人</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 14pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;">張祐瑄 實習諮商心理師<span lang="EN-US">/</span>寬欣心理治療所<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">延續上次說的,人生最重要的事,只有五件。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;"><u><span style="color: #cc0000;">說我愛你、學習一個人、出去玩、做自己、好好活下去。</span></u><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">這是<span lang="EN-US">William
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">覺得有道理嗎?那我們繼續看下去。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">上次談了說我愛你, <span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">和喜歡的朋友、同學、學長姐弟妹、另一半、家人在一起,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">也許不用刻意做什麼,相處起來就可以自在又開心。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">最重要的是,有他們的陪伴自己也不孤單了,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">空氣中充滿小愛心和小太陽,洋溢著溫暖氣息,就像冬天中的暖陽。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">這次我們要說的是,學習一個人。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;"> (</span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">海安路藝術造街/張祐瑄攝<span lang="EN-US">)</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">有點跳,突然從一群人變成一個人。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">就好像在<span lang="EN-US">party</span>上玩得正<span lang="EN-US">high</span>,音樂催到最大聲,霓虹燈光轉啊轉,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">突然來個跳電,周遭一瞬間安靜下來,非、常、安、靜。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">那種感覺就像你<span style="background-color: white;"><i><span style="color: #e69138;">獨自被丟到外太空, 或是深夜回宿舍發現忘了帶鑰匙,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></i></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: white;"><i><span style="color: #e69138;">孤伶伶一個人,心裡忍不住孤單寂寞覺得冷啊。</span></i></span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">既然這樣,為什麼要學習一個人?<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">明明和喜歡的人在一起這麼美好,可以感覺到很多陪伴和愛。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">因為,<b><u style="background-color: #f4cccc;">我</u><u><span style="background-color: #f4cccc;">們本來就是一個人呀</span></u></b>,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">懷孕時,是一個精子突破重重關卡和卵子相遇,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">出生時,是一個人離開媽媽肚子,穿越羊水、脫離臍帶,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">在嚎啕大哭中,終於來到世界上。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">最後,我們也是一個人揮手告別生活幾十年的世界。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">嗯,所以我們就是一個人,在這段人生旅途中。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">聽起來有點孤獨哪。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">不過,你可能有個經驗,就是在一個人很多很<span lang="EN-US">high</span>很<span lang="EN-US">fun</span>的場合,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">突然覺得好、想、跑、走!也不知道為什麼,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">就是<i><span style="color: #6aa84f;">想要穿過擁擠的人群,推開大門,走到外面透透氣,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></i></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="color: #0b5394; font-size: large;"><i>只是想要有一些時間,甚至是一個小空間,<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></i></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;"><i><span style="color: #0b5394;">好好沉澱自己,整理自己的情緒和想法。</span></i><b><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">之前很流行一件事:一個人旅行。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">你可能會說,我沒錢、沒時間、沒方向感、沒勇氣。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;"> </span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">繪本是關於莫亞與羅蘭的故事。莫亞原本依賴著羅蘭的存在,而羅蘭則是把莫亞作為仰望的對象,莫亞專注追尋著自己的夢想和目標,羅蘭則在一旁靜靜的陪伴與照顧,然而有天莫亞出遠門了,羅蘭只能靜靜地等莫亞歸來,但是等待的時間如此漫長,思念莫亞的羅蘭,開始一本本的翻閱莫亞的藏書,有天她發現自己可以看得更高更遠了,因此換她離開去追尋這個世界<span lang="EN-US">…</span>。故事當然還有後續,就留給大家去享受閱讀的樂趣,但是我想討論的,是<i><span style="color: #e69138;">那段羅蘭<u>沒有</u>莫亞的日子</span></i>。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: #fce5cd;">富裕病</span>,<span lang="EN-US">90</span>年代於美國被提出,英文原文<span lang="EN-US">Affluenza</span>是由「富裕」(<span lang="EN-US">affluence</span>)和「流感」(<span lang="EN-US">influenza</span>)組成,被用來表示<span style="background-color: #fce5cd;">因過的太富裕,導致生活失去目標、沉迷在物質之中</span>。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">那天看了韓劇《岬童夷》,提到某個角色希望能用富裕病,做為減緩刑期的方法。讓我想起了一些事情<span lang="EN-US">…<o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">確實,有一部分的年輕人正在經驗類似富裕病的體驗,他們很無聊,不知道做什麼,尋求更強烈的刺激。我的工作有一部分會接觸到這樣的年輕人,他們<i><span style="color: #e06666;">無憂無慮、沒有目標夢想、不需要努力、有強力的靠山、跟隨物質的慾望</span></i>,總是讓上一代的人特別擔心,想著怎麼沒有我們那樣的拼勁。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">但是是什麼讓他們很無聊的?<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">我想,富裕病是一個很好的標籤,用來指責現代所有的年輕人,一個詞彙就蘊含了我們對現代年輕人的各種指認知(包含我自己)。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7mMq-wqHY_6PfuxP-P3OFUiFoe9KSfItSVctO4Y6KRlOYTUy16lsIBgHfsAOs9mJIPZBkgcV3WIQufWa3XPb96J6N0BpX34Moz5_oaUaAg7OZ0vZ9Jg-wMb0jJewLI5_l482sFUAWSg4/s1600/%25E7%2585%25A9%25E6%2583%25B102.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7mMq-wqHY_6PfuxP-P3OFUiFoe9KSfItSVctO4Y6KRlOYTUy16lsIBgHfsAOs9mJIPZBkgcV3WIQufWa3XPb96J6N0BpX34Moz5_oaUaAg7OZ0vZ9Jg-wMb0jJewLI5_l482sFUAWSg4/s1600/%25E7%2585%25A9%25E6%2583%25B102.jpg" /></a><span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">我認為單純用這個詞會來指責這個世代的年輕人不上進、無動力並不公平,當然,生活便利、衣食無缺是這個世代共同的體驗,也因此理所當然沒有理由無法成功,但偏偏年輕人又遇到了不同的問題,而且,很難跨越。也不要忘記,有更多的年輕人其實在努力奮鬥,但仍然不得其門而入。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">正好,近期應邀至學校談論「提升學習動機」,我思考要如何來看待沒有動力的年輕人們,搭著我個人的經驗,決定來<span style="background-color: white;"><i><u><span style="color: #e69138;">談談未來的危機。</span></u></i></span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">現在這些年輕人正在面臨什麼危機呢?<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;">1. </span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="background-color: #f4cccc;">年金破產</span>:年金是各種社會保險制度的統稱,指預先繳納在危機時刻或到達法定年齡時,可領取使用的一筆金錢,像是健保、勞保等等。因為制度問題及少子化等等問題,在未來可能會有破產疑慮。</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">可參考:<span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://www.coolloud.org.tw/node/74776">http://www.coolloud.org.tw/node/74776</a></span>。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;">3. </span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="background-color: #d9ead3;">世界變化快速</span>:產業結構不斷在改變,文化風情也不斷在改變。四年前立下的志願目標可能在四年後已經消失。教育體系失靈、產業結構失衡,不管讀了什麼科系,面對就業市場,還是一張白紙。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">我想在面臨這樣的環境之下,任誰都會沒有動力、會想要躲在安全的圈裡自由自在吧。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">但是,過於安逸確實不是好事,社會環境不佳,雖然有很多勇敢的人再企圖改革,扭轉社會現實,但這不是短期可以改變的,<span style="background-color: yellow;"><span style="color: red;"><b>我們仍然必須先想辦法生存,因此必須讓自己的心靈夠強壯</b></span></span>,我主張<span style="background-color: yellow;"><span style="color: red;"><b>我們必須經歷煩惱,才能更掌握生活中的每個細節,也才能夠累積足夠的經驗及堅韌,去面對充滿危機的環境。</b></span></span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">林宥嘉的這首《慢一點》可以給我們一些提醒。(這個版本的<span lang="EN-US">Yoga</span>很迷人啊!)<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">「<u><b><span style="color: red;"><span style="background-color: white;">飛機不是以直線航道飛行到目的地,因為受到天候等因素影響,必須</span><span style="background-color: yellow;">經過多次修正</span><span style="background-color: white;">才能抵達目的地。</span></span></b></u><b><u><span style="color: red;"><span style="background-color: white;">工作也是一種選擇,當遭遇挫敗時,必須</span><span style="background-color: yellow;">不斷自我檢討改進</span><span style="background-color: white;">,最後</span><span style="background-color: yellow;">一定能到達目標</span><span style="background-color: white;">。所以,</span><span style="background-color: yellow;">不需要因此感到沮喪或是看輕自己。</span></span></u></b>」<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">這個春天,很熱鬧!<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">今年春天,台灣各地開滿無數漂亮的花。璀璨的、繽紛的、花枝招展的,在都市中、在鄉野裡,盡情地綻放<span lang="EN-US">……</span>很美,真的很美!<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">然而,對我來說,這美景,<u><i><span style="color: #e06666;">除了美麗的花朵外,最吸引我的,莫過於人們的笑容了!</span></i></u><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">看見很多人,攜家帶眷,全家人一起在花叢步道裡漫步。嬉鬧著、笑鬧著,有老、有少,皆緩緩地享受著。當下,我突然覺得,這個世界的時間,完全都慢了下來;所有的繁忙瑣事,亦拋在腦後。眼下,只和我愛的人就著美景,相互陪伴、分享喜悅與這純粹的快樂。</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">這些樹木與花朵,其實一直存在著。每年春來天暖,便含蓄地開著花,幾天時間後又凋零了。這般地低調,總讓忙碌的我們,沒有時間注意到。若不是今年突然大放異彩,也不會有機會看見如此的美麗。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">同樣地,<u><span style="color: #bf9000;"><i>生活中的美麗,其實一直都存在著。只不過,很多時候都是那樣小小的、微微的,就像往年的花朵一樣,需要多費神才會注意到!</i></span></u>然而,當我們願意多花些心思來觀察與注意,就會發現處處是美麗、處處是驚喜。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> </span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;"> </span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">很多大學生在思考著生涯抉擇跟考量時,都會在意的一點是<span style="background-color: #d0e0e3;"><u style="background-color: #d0e0e3; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">「穩定」</u><span style="background-color: white;">與否</span></span>?有著人嚮往著像軍公教人員的「鐵飯碗」工作;但對於有一些人來說,也因為這樣的「穩定」,會感覺到自己的進步是有限的,反而有想避開選擇穩定工作的選擇。為什麼會這樣的現象呢?除了每個人的人格特質不同外,或許也可以用一個<span style="background-color: yellow;">舒適圈</span>的概念來作為說明:<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;"> </span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="background-color: yellow;">舒適圈</span>理論形容<span style="background-color: #fff2cc;"><i>所有人都生活在一個無形的圈子裡,若長期處於<u>熟悉的環境</u>、每天都看到<u>一樣的人</u>、<u>作的事情都一樣</u>。我們很容易在這樣的狀態<u>感到輕鬆自在</u>。若我們踏出熟悉的範圍,就馬上會面對不熟悉的變化與挑戰,因而感到不舒適,很自然的想要退回到舒適圈內。</i></span>假使我們不刻意跨出自己的舒適圈,生活相對是穩定跟平順的,但相對來說發展及進步就會很慢,更別說有機會可以發揮潛力。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;"> </span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">舒適圈的理論中除了舒適區(<span lang="EN-US">comfort zone</span>)外,還包括<span style="background-color: red;"><span style="color: white;">伸展區(<span lang="EN-US">stretch zone</span>)</span></span>和<span style="background-color: blue;"><span style="color: white;">恐慌區(<span lang="EN-US">stress zone</span>)</span></span>。在舒適區我們得心應手,每天處於熟悉的環境中,做起事情來得心應手,和熟悉的人交際,甚至你就是這個領域的專家,對這個區域中的人和事感覺是「舒適」的。有些喜歡穩定的人會甘於現狀,一旦跳出這個區域,可能會覺得有壓力,無所適從;也有些人會因為日子久了,能夠學到的東西變少,進步緩慢,就會思考著有所改變。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;"> </span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="background-color: blue;"><span style="color: white;">恐慌區</span></span>,顧名思義在這個區域中會<i><u><span style="color: #6fa8dc;">感到憂慮與恐懼</span></u></i>。強大的壓力會啟動身體反射,此時身體的資源都集中在肢體上,認知運作遲鈍,全憑本能反應。<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #6fa8dc;"><i><u>在這樣的狀態下絕對無法學習新事物或發揮潛能,事後若沒有經過適當的療癒,甚至可能造成對特定事物有創傷的感覺</u></i>,</span></span>也因此侷限了進一步探索與冒險的機會。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;"> </span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="background-color: yellow;"><span style="color: red;"><b>隨著未來的每個選擇不同,不同選擇也代表在你的舒適圈中的不同位置。</b></span></span>穩定的工作相對像在舒適區;有一些挑戰的工作就是在伸展區。你也可以從生活中覺察自己的特質,看自己適合在穩定的「舒適區」工作;還是具有冒險挑戰的心。當然,也不見得同一份工作都總是「穩定」,有時候隨著工作任務的不同,以及你對自己期許不同,可能就會從隨時從舒適區跨到伸展區。如果你喜歡,也可以<b><span style="background-color: yellow;"><span style="color: red;">添加一點不同在生活中,生活適時的冒險,不但能讓長久不變的生活中增添色彩;抑能讓你在舒適區跟伸展區更彈性地來回移動。</span></span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">創造捧在掌心的小小幸福<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: medium;">材料<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: medium;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;">*</span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">鮮奶<span lang="EN-US">......250 c.c<o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: medium;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;">*</span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">薑粉<span lang="EN-US">......1/2 </span>小匙<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: medium;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;">1. </span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">牛奶倒入鍋中加熱<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">從臨床實務與生活經驗的故事中<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體;">**</span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">歡迎轉貼分享給親朋好友<span lang="EN-US">**<o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體;"><span style="font-size: large;">一位在大學任教的老師,說著班上有學生因為沉迷網路,影響到上課的出席率,多次聯絡未果,心裡挺掛心。但這幾日竟然主動傳文字訊息,表達他的困境。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: #d9ead3;">「老師,我好難從網路的世界裡拔出來。」</span>學生述說對上課缺席拖延的行為,感到羞愧,知道老師在找他,但他一直<span style="background-color: #d9ead3;"><span lang="EN-US">"</span>沒有勇氣表達<span lang="EN-US">"</span></span>。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體;"><span style="font-size: large;">這位老師還說,學生主動詢問是否能參加這堂班級輔導講座,而老師也給予此學生善意的回應,鼓勵他前來。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體;"><span style="font-size: large;">今天的課堂,他真的出現了<span lang="EN-US">!! </span>老師告訴我,她覺得非常驚訝也欣慰。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體;"><span style="font-size: large;">老師問我<span lang="EN-US">:</span>「他是怎麼做到的<span lang="EN-US">?</span>」,故事聽到這,我的心也跟著讚嘆。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 標楷體; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體;"> </span><span style="font-family: 標楷體; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體;">是阿,這個改變好不容易啊<span lang="EN-US">!</span>究竟他是怎麼做到的呢?<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體;"><span style="font-size: large;">其實,這個久違的正向改變,當然不會是一朝一夕之間就突然形成的,是<span style="color: #6aa84f;"><i><b><u>先前有善的種子被澆灌,經過一段時間的醞釀,在時機成熟時,發芽了</u></b></i><u><i><b>!</b></i></u></span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體;"><span style="font-size: large;">當他願意<span lang="EN-US">"</span>承認<span lang="EN-US">"</span>自己沉迷於網路世界的處境,<span lang="EN-US">"</span>願意表達出真實情緒<span lang="EN-US">"</span>,包括<span lang="EN-US">:</span>生活節奏亂了腳步,心裡頭的著急與惶恐;面對關心自己的老師,有著愧疚和抱歉;除此之外,還有對自己的在乎和想要改變和調整的渴望。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; font-size: large;">感覺器官是人體接收環境資訊的重要器官,使我們形成對環境的細節認識。<i style="color: #b45f06; text-decoration: underline;">耳朵接收聲音,讓人類能透過語言與聲音接受資訊,經過複雜的腦內程序,理成充滿我們內心的重要訊息。</i>除了接收聲音外,聽覺系統也扮演著保持平衡的重要感覺。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; font-size: large;"><u>因此成為了現在的自己。</u><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; font-size: large;">給奇怪的你。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; font-size: large;">你有這樣的感覺嗎?<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; font-size: large;">在夜深人靜的時候,突然<u><span style="color: #6aa84f;">發現自己如此孤單,似乎沒有知心朋友,沒有人關心自己,突然害怕─<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></u></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; font-size: large;"><u><span style="color: #6aa84f;">原來自己是多麼奇怪,惹人厭。</span></u><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; font-size: large;">不敢闔眼,深怕一閉上眼睛,世界就離你遠去。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; font-size: large;">然後流下幾滴眼淚,哭泣的孩子就在內心之中,翻騰著。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體; font-size: large;">你一定有你的方法,細細品味自己的生活,一定能夠發現,那個曾經讓自己投入忘我的事情。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801586211062381127.post-18655161766288305132016-02-16T00:00:00.000-08:002016-02-22T21:17:05.657-08:00尊重那條看不見的「線」─談身體、心理界線<div align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;"><div align="center" class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-family: 標楷體; font-size: 18.0pt;"><span style="color: #674ea7;">尊重那條看不見的「線」─談身體、心理界線</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: right;"><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">邱羣倫 諮商心理師/禾心諮商所合作夥伴</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 150%; text-align: left;"><span lang="EN-US" style="background: white; font-family: 標楷體; line-height: 150%;"> </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: 標楷體; line-height: 150%;"> 在跟大學生晤談的時候,常常聽到同學間有時候在嬉鬧談天的過程中,因為太過興奮出現的肢體接觸逾越了界限,造成彼此的不舒服,也影響了本來的好情誼。其實,<u><b><span style="color: #38761d;">兩人的交情即便再怎麼樣的好,也不代表可以為所欲為。肢體動作如是,語言亦然。</span></b></u>若是忘情的跟同伴開了一個帶有性意涵的玩笑,而造成對方不舒服的話,也可能造成性騷擾。「</span><span style="background-color: #fce5cd; font-family: 標楷體; line-height: 150%;">身體界限</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: 標楷體; line-height: 150%;">」指的是</span><span style="background-color: #fce5cd; font-family: 標楷體; line-height: 150%;">每個人能夠允許別人靠近的限度</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: 標楷體; line-height: 150%;">,而「</span><span style="background-color: #cfe2f3; font-family: 標楷體; line-height: 150%;">心理界線</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: 標楷體; line-height: 150%;">」會</span><span style="background-color: #cfe2f3; font-family: 標楷體; line-height: 150%;">決定我們跟對方說話的主題深度</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: 標楷體; line-height: 150%;">。無論是哪一種界線,都會因對象、時間、年齡、性別的不同而改變。而每一個人可以接受的距離也不太一樣。這麼一來,能察覺與尊重人我間那條看不到的界線是一件重要的事。</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;"> <span style="background-color: yellow;"><b>太陽的孩子</b></span>,一部描寫<span style="background-color: white;"><i><span style="color: #f1c232;">回歸土地、復育人心</span></i></span>的電影;秋意微涼、艾草味包圍的夜裡,一群人在登革熱疫情不斷的台南,在廣場中搶先欣賞了這部影片。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;"> 故事的主角有個美麗的名字<span lang="EN-US">panay</span>,為了撫養兩個孩子,她放下了<span lang="EN-US">panay</span>,到台北成為了林秀玲,一名捍衛原民觀點而堅持的記者。當家鄉的老父因病倒下,林秀玲趕回老家,看著老父即使年邁稱病,卻仍一次次以雙手雙足,傳遞延續祖靈土地靈魂的渴望;看著外來的漢人,再次以金錢作為武器進攻部落;<b style="background-color: #f4cccc;">哪裡是家呢?這裡才是我需要照顧的地方啊!</b><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;"> 但要復育乾枯的土地談何容易,重修水圳的計畫書在公部門中,成為流浪的孤兒;而在多處碰壁後,終於獲得與學者合作計畫案的簡報機會。林秀玲婉娩道來,當她以聽不出口音的國語,介紹自己是林秀玲時,她盡可能讓自己遠離原住民的身分;而今天在台上,她想要告訴大家<span style="background-color: #d9ead3;"><b>「我是<span lang="EN-US">panay</span>,這是稻穗的意思,我想讓祖先土地,再次結滿稻穗。」</b></span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;"> <i><span style="color: #674ea7;">「我是<span lang="EN-US">panay</span>」。短短幾個字組成的一句話,背後藏著許多壓抑、無奈,要掛上「林秀玲」的名字,才能<u>符合主流文化(漢人)的標準</u>。</span></i>認回自我是不容易的事,單一的標準建構了一套活著的樣貌,好像需要活得像「林秀玲」才符合社會的價值。而<span style="background-color: #cfe2f3;">在一次次的沉潛、不安、痛苦、質疑、碰撞,內心另一個聲音逐漸放大,帶來堅定、勇氣、行動,終將讓自己回歸偏好的標準、偏好的自我認同中。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;">王孟羚 諮商心理師/<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span><span style="font-family: 標楷體;">看見光亮心理諮商所</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">一日早起,外出買早餐<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">買完早餐回到家裡<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">因未與老先生多做攀談<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;"><i><b><span style="color: #e06666;">是一種不放棄、堅強,以及不與年紀有關的旺盛生命力</span></b></i><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">這樣的觀點,是一種看待生命困境的視野<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">掃把賣不好、生活沒有錢、年紀越來越長、體力越來越衰退<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">若將這些視為生命中的挑戰,我們只會看到種種的困境<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="color: #f1c232; font-size: large;"><i><b>然而身處在困難重重的挑戰裡<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></i></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="color: #f1c232; font-size: large;"><i><b>雖無力改變那使人動彈不得的困境<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></i></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;"><i><b><span style="color: #f1c232;">但請別忘記,處在困境中的自己,其實是充滿著力量的</span></b></i><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">就如同老先生肩挑著兩大串掃把、一步步走著、努力地銷售<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">讓人充分感受到的是他辛苦底下,堅強的韌性<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">就好像當我們不放棄的撐在一個困難裡</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">勇敢地面對使人想逃避的情境<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">千方百計地想辦法解決困難<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">努力地控制不讓某個混亂,變成整個生活的混亂<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">其實,在這些過程中<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="color: #3d85c6; font-size: large;"><i><b>更可以看到的是一個人內在值得欣賞與肯定的能量<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></i></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="color: #3d85c6; font-size: large;"><i><b>幫助自己面對種種的挑戰<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></i></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="color: #3d85c6; font-size: large;"><i><b>這是重新看待困難的方法,也是一種「解構」<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></b></i></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;"><i><b><span style="color: #3d85c6;">將困境解構了,反而看到更多的困境背後的生命力、韌性</span></b></i><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">所以,如果你喜歡用這種方式看待自己面對困難的時刻<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">那請別忘記,面對困難時,仍舊能擁抱自己、愛自己<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="font-size: large;">並且<b><span style="background-color: yellow; color: red;">相信,即使暫時無法解決問題</span></b><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 標楷體;"><span style="color: red; font-size: large;"><b style="background-color: yellow;">自己還是一個很棒的人!</b></span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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